When to Talk to Your Kids About the Dangers of Alcohol and Drugs

Every parent should talk to their kids about the dangers of drugs and alcohol. Most parents do not know when to approach the situation though. It's common to feel that if they approach the situation too early, they may be doing more harm than good. On the other hand, they know that approaching the situation too late could result in serious problems. Every situation is different, but the bottom line is that it is essential for every parent to approach the situation eventually. The best way is to base it upon your children’s behavior. Here are four ideas for getting started.

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Changes in Behavior

As a parent, you should always monitor your kid’s behavior. Of course, a child can change his or her behavior often, and most of the changes are natural. However, if your child has a quick and meaningful change in temperament, manners or habits, it may be time to start talking about drugs. Keep in mind that as kids turn into adolescents, it becomes much harder to understand their behavior, and you shouldn't leap to conclusions. Talk with parents and perhaps even professionals, such as your child's guidance counselor before assuming the worst.

New Friends

Never be afraid to take an active role in your children’s lives. One way to be more involved is to know the friends of your children. If your son or daughter suddenly starts hanging out with new friends, it may be time to sit down and have a talk about drugs and alcohol. Adolescents often start hanging out with a new crowd, and this alone is not a cause for a concern. As a parent, you need to verify that their new friends are not drug or alcohol abusers. The best way to do this is simply ask your kids - they may lie or not even know, but as long as they know your rules & expectations, you've at least met them halfway. They won't like hearing it, but don't let that stop you.

Driving

When your kid starts driving, it's absolutely necessary to have a serious discussion about drugs and alcohol. Once your kid gets a license, they will have more freedom than in the past, so it is vital to make sure they understand the responsibilities of such freedom and privilege. Too many Americans see driving as a right, and it's not - it's a privilege. Remind your child that they must earn it and take the responsibility seriously.

Emotional Upheaval

If your child experiences a loss of a friend of family member, has to move away from friends or perhaps breaks up with a significant other, watch their behavior. You should be proactive in expressing support for them, so that they don't feel that substances are the only way to deal with pain. You do not have to bring up drugs or alcohol abuse specifically, just let your child know that you are there for them.

As a parent, you will know when it is best to approach your child about drugs and alcohol. Remember though, never approach in a condescending or accusatory way. You must be their partner - help guide them along to a better future. By having open, and honest discussions, you are well on your way to preventing the problem from occurring in the first place.

Guest post by Ashley Thomas. Ashley writes about parenting, health & substance abuse at her own website.